Field Note 070526 · Parable

A Jay in My Yard

On love for one person, the gift you never reclaim, and keeping the ground open

I want to tell you about a bird.

There's a scrub-jay that works my neighborhood. Blue, loud, bold enough to scold the cat. Every fall I watch her do the same thing. She finds an acorn, the biggest and best one on the tree, and she carries it off and buries it in somebody's open yard. Then she goes back and gets another. And another. A jay will do this seven thousand times before winter. One acorn at a time, seven thousand times.

She's not planting a forest. Let me be clear about that. She has no idea she's planting anything. She's hungry, and winter is coming, and she's hiding food she means to dig back up when the insects are gone. That's the whole plan. Feed herself. Survive.

Here's the thing, though. She doesn't come back for all of them. She's smart. She digs up a great many, using the fence posts and the trees to navigate back. But the greater part of what she buries? She never comes back for it. Thousands of acorns, still in the ground, in exactly the sunny open spots where an oak grows best, because that's where she was hiding them.

And those become the oaks.

The tree she depends on, the one that feeds her, and her chicks, and everything living in the scrub around her, that tree gets planted by the acorns she forgets. Not the ones she's careful with. The ones she leaves behind. She spends her whole life trying to survive one winter, and without ever meaning to, she plants the forest that survives her.

I keep coming back to that bird.

Because I think people are not so different. Someone helps a young person because they want to see that one person get a shot they can picture. A specific face, from their own town. That's the acorn. That's the appetite. They're not trying to remake the whole place. They're trying to help one person they can see.

But do that across a whole community, across fifty years, and look what gets planted. The young person who got the help grows up and does the work, raises a family, hires the next kid, comes back and helps someone themselves. The place we all live in, the neighbors, the people who do the work, the next ones who give: that's the forest. And it grew from people trying, one at a time, to help one person they could picture.

We're not asking anyone to be selfless. We're describing what already happens when somebody acts on love for one person. They end up, without quite meaning to, planting the whole place.

And there are two more things about that bird you should hear.

The first is about the acorns she leaves behind. The forest doesn't come from what she keeps. It comes from what she gives up: the surplus, the part she doesn't come back for. There's a kind of gift like that. The one you don't reclaim. The acorn you bury knowing you'll never dig it up, so that an oak stands in a place you won't live to see. That's the truest gift there is, because it's the one you plant for a shade you'll never sit in.

And the second thing is the hard one. That whole system, the jay and the acorns and the oaks, doesn't run itself. Scrub country depends on fire. Every so often it has to burn, or the oaks grow too tall and close over, the open ground disappears, and the jay has nowhere left to plant. The caching stops. And a jay family that loses its ground can be gone for good. The forest that looks like it takes care of itself? It doesn't. It needs tending. It needs somebody to keep the ground open.

That's the work. Not the planting, exactly. The tending. Keeping the ground open, so that one person's love for one person can go on quietly planting the whole place, year after year, long after any of us has stopped watching the bird.

About this Field Note

Field Notes from Show Me the Receipts document observations from the field in the register of a practitioner writing to practitioners. This one is a parable, and it asks to be read as one. The bird's natural history is real, and drawn from the Florida scrub-jay: a single jay caches on the order of seven thousand acorns each fall, comes back for only a fraction of them, and leaves the rest in the open, sunny ground where oaks grow best, which makes the species one of the oak's most effective planters. The scrub it depends on is genuinely fire-dependent, and when the canopy closes the jays lose their ground and a family can be gone for good. Those figures follow the Cornell Lab of Ornithology and DeGange's 1989 field study. The reading of that biology onto philanthropy, that love for one person quietly plants a community, that the gift you never reclaim is the truest one, and that the real work is tending rather than planting, is how this framework sees the work, offered as such and not as a finding. The tending it points to, giving a promise an owner and a written record before it can break in silence, is what Show Me the Receipts is about. Glen E. Quiring, CFRE, is the developer of the Show Me the Receipts framework. ShowMeReceipts.org.

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